A question that circulates through kink Tumbles now and then, as below, is: why do girls wear strap-ons? Sometimes this is dressed up in feminist language, and sometimes just in a more general “but…I don’t get it…”
Delilah answers this question here in a very interesting way, and also links to several other essays on the subject, each with different answers. I’m not a girl, so I’m not going to answer it, but the question fascinates me.
It seems, I think, to encode a certain logic that because there are no nerve endings in a dildo, there is nothing sexy about using one. Yet if we phrase it in those terms, the assumption would seem to fly in the face of all sorts of commonplace kinks. There are no nerve endings in a whip, or a paddle, yet I rarely hear anyone feel equally stumped about why someone might enjoy using those.
After all, on the basis of several zillion pornographic images, it would appear that lots of straight guys enjoy looking at images of a woman sucking cock. Why should it be surprising if a woman enjoys looking at a guy sucking cock, especially if the guy is actually right there between her legs?
I’ve been asked to explain what anyone “gets” out of him sucking her rubber cock?
All I know is what I think: the fact that he hates it, and it makes him feel small, and that she feels absolutely nothing (no pleasure, just indifference) is what I get out of it. And I find that combination more than a little sexy.
Rocker’s Going Under #23 /DV